Do You Feel Lonely or Unhappy in Your Marriage?

A Marriage with Deep Love is Possible as Long as Commitment is the Focus

Are you feeling stressed, anxious and depressed because of a disconnect in your marriage? Perhaps you feel distant and lonely and feel like you live with a roommate instead of a loving spouse or partner. It may be that you have been hurt too many times and you are about to throw in the towel.

Maybe life stressors – such as a move, career change, or the birth of a new child, has put pressure on things and brought issues up that once laid dormant.

It seems that no matter what you say or do, it feels like you get no where with the one you had so much love for. Small and insignificant disputes often times lead into full-blown arguments that usually end in silence lasting for days, weeks, or even longer. You might feel like you’re walking on eggshells just trying to be ‘decent’ to each other. Unfortunately, this only leads into a downward spiral of communication, connection, and ultimately a loss of love for one another.

You may feel physically exhausted, emotionally drained, and have little to no focus. You may be finding it difficult to sleep, concentrate, and function overall in almost every area in life. As you think about all the daily life obligations you have to have to face (work, kids, family and friend commitments, bills, etc.), you may dread even getting out of bed.

More than anything, you wish you could feel the deep love and happiness you once did that now may only feel like a distant memory.

If You Are Unsatisfied in Your Marriage, You Are NOT ALONE…

After a period of time, many couples feel like their relationship ends up falling short of their standards and expectations. As the realities of life come crashing in, individuals in a marriage may end up feeling disconnected, unappreciated, and unloved. It’s not uncommon for those in long-term relationships to feel stuck, longing for a deep heart-felt connection they once had with their partners.

It is often said that no two people are the same. Inevitably, over time people change and grow. When two people are not seeing eye-to-eye they end up losing their connection and ultimately start falling out of love. Sometimes the couples seem to argue endlessly, as a result they both end up feeling drained as they keep hitting emotional walls and dead ends.

Sometimes partners “check-out” by just going through the motions of their relationship and developing a passive aggressive attitude. In this case, couples avoid each other emotionally (and sometimes physically) by focusing on everything else in their life but neglecting their marriage. Sometimes these couples wish things would either get better in some way or just end. However, each partner feels paralyzed and unable to take the first step towards any type of positive change.

Over time, it’s easy to fall into one of these patterns without realizing it. Regardless of your situation, know that you’re not alone if your feeling frustrated, hurt, and confused. There is hope and light at the end of the tunnel. With your commitment and the support of a quality couples counselor, it is possible to not only re-kindle the love you both shared, but also make it stronger than ever before.

You Can Heal and Strengthen Your Marriage Stronger Than Ever Before

You don’t have to settle. With right kind of help, you can acquire a deep and truly satisfying marriage with the one who have committed to. No matter how far apart you may feel with your partner, you can always develop the skills needed to enhance, cherish, and solidify your love for each other. We can help you rediscover the key elements that made your love special from the beginning and keep it lasting for years to come.

At The Relationship Center of Michigan in Ann Arbor, You and Your Partner will:

• Learn to work through conflict and stop the repetitive arguments
• Develop communication skills in a safe, nonjudgmental environment
• Feel closer, more intimate, and affectionate
• Re-build trust
• Become best friends again

Dr. Joseph Dragun is a relationship expert with 20 years of experience. With offices in Brighton and Ann Arbor Michigan, Joe has helped many couples re-ignite their passion and intimacy.

In our practice, Dr. Dragun has assembled and trained a team of qualified therapists who can help you and your partner reclaim your strengths and love that ensures positive changes that last.

A few things set us apart:

• We are trained in a highly effective couples/relationship therapy called Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, through which you can resolve conflict in deep, lasting ways.
• We have worked with over 1500 couples in the last seven years.
• We make a genuine effort to meet and accept clients where they are, respecting them as unique individuals.
• Our therapists are humble. We recognize that we are not all knowing and all seeing. We don’t have all the answers. However, with our experience and perspective, we can help you develop the tools to work through your problems and find relief from your struggle.
• We observe couples’ interactions and help each partner really see and listen to the other.
• We are comfortable, welcoming, and easy to talk to, not clinical and distant. We genuinely care about each of our clients.
• We are accepting of difference and completely non-judgmental.

No matter what you and your partner are struggling with, there is always hope for growth, joy, and deep, meaningful love to be discovered within your relationship rather than discouragement and pain. Together, you and your partner can make positive changes that can support your relationship for years to come.

But Wait…

We’ve already tried everything, including couples counseling. Why should we come to you?

We understand feeling hesitant and perhaps a little pessimistic if you have tried counseling in the past with little to no success. We find that sometimes therapists have not been properly trained in couples counseling, which can lead to frustration, confusion and discouragement.

Our approach is Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, which our counselors use. This has been shown to be one of the most effective approaches available in the field. Published studies show that about 90 percent of the couples suffering marital distress improved after 12 sessions of 90 minutes. By contrast, most traditional therapies only are successful about 40 to 50 percent of the time.

We have tried everything to stop our arguments. Can anything help us?

It can be very challenging to deal with the negative, repetitive arguments that so many couple find themselves in. You may feel as there is no hope and calling it quits is the only solution. Most of the time couples end up simply reacting to each other instead of listening and trying to gain sincere understanding.

A major approach in how we handle this issue is by slowing down the dialogue between couples and listening to the feelings of what each partner is expressing. We do this by encouraging honesty, empathy, and patience between couples. This is a first step in developing important communication skills start with the values and principles of understanding.

This sounds like a lot of work. I’m not sure I have the energy to do it.

Many couples feel this way, and the work required may seem overwhelming. However, we understand that you are coming from a place where you’re are drained emotionally and mentally. This is why we take our time and go at a pace that is comfortable with you and your partner.

We have noticed that small victories that couples achieve during early sessions re-ignites their connection, lifts mood, and renews hope. The work you commit to now can have a positive impact for not only you and your partner, but your quality of life overall. While commitment is crucial to success, the rewards far exceed the work required for reclaiming the love in your relationship.

Couples Counseling Can Help You Reconnect

Don’t struggle with loneliness and frustration anymore. Take the first step to rediscover happiness, deep friendship, and lasting love in your relationship today.

Speak to one of our relationship experts today with a free twenty-minute phone call and let us help you take the first steps to reclaiming love. Give us a call at 810-227-6218